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My wife used the IUD. Haven’t had any problems and it’s very effective according to the docs. There are some risks for certain people…but a doc can go over that. It’s not a good option for those that want to have more kids…but if you’re done….no problemo. And for the cost….500.00, it can stay in for up to 10 years…at least the one she has. Robertson <ple…@no.email> wrote in message
news:[email protected]… – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Hiya > Perhaps this is not the appropriate forum for my query, but y’all are > pretty level-headed here so I hope tossing this out is not too > unwelcome. > I’m thirty years old, and my wife is thirty-seven — oops thirty-eight > (just had a birthday!) She has been the one using birth control for > the entirety of our nearly ten year relationship; first via the pill, > and now with Norplant. We’re both starting to get a little edgy about > the implications of this for her, due to her age, that she is > overweight, that she smokes, her family has a history of heart disease > — all categories that place her somewhat "at risk" from what I > understand. > We’re looking for advice on options. I think it is safe to say we > aren’t planning on having any children (we have two from her previous > marriage.) However surgery for me or her is probably too costly. I > am allergic to latex, so condoms are out of the question. Sponges > are… would really cramp our style, let’s say. > I’m in the dark on this subject. Any pointers from those in-the-know? > Son of Robert
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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -Robertson wrote: > Hiya > Perhaps this is not the appropriate forum for my query, but y’all are > pretty level-headed here so I hope tossing this out is not too > unwelcome. > I’m thirty years old, and my wife is thirty-seven — oops thirty-eight > (just had a birthday!) She has been the one using birth control for > the entirety of our nearly ten year relationship; first via the pill, > and now with Norplant. We’re both starting to get a little edgy about > the implications of this for her, due to her age, that she is > overweight, that she smokes, her family has a history of heart disease > — all categories that place her somewhat "at risk" from what I > understand. > We’re looking for advice on options. I think it is safe to say we > aren’t planning on having any children (we have two from her previous > marriage.) However surgery for me or her is probably too costly. I > am allergic to latex, so condoms are out of the question. Sponges > are… would really cramp our style, let’s say. > I’m in the dark on this subject. Any pointers from those in-the-know?
I’ve tried a few different methods but most involve hormones or latex. I believe non-latex condoms are available so you could check those out. Otherwise, save your pennies for a vasectomy and practise natural family planning and abstinence until you can afford to have the snip. BTW, I’m surprised your wife’s gynie wouldn’t suggest trying a very low-dose mini pill, even with your wife’s contra-indications. I say that because I know lots of women who take the pill who are in a similar situation and not because I have any medical knowledge. Callai – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Son of Robert
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Lowery Family wrote: > My wife used the IUD. Haven’t had any problems and it’s very effective > according to the docs. There are some risks for certain people…but a doc > can go over that. It’s not a good option for those that want to have more > kids…but if you’re done….no problemo. > And for the cost….500.00, it can stay in for up to 10 years…at least the > one she has.
I just about fainted at that cost! I had one inserted (gravigard) about 3 years ago and it cost about $50 excluding the doctor’s account. What kind does your wife have? Callai (btw I live in Australia so we may get them cheaper anyway…the Pill costs between $17- 25 for 4 months) – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Robertson <ple…@no.email> wrote in message > news:[email protected]… > > Hiya > > Perhaps this is not the appropriate forum for my query, but y’all are > > pretty level-headed here so I hope tossing this out is not too > > unwelcome. > > I’m thirty years old, and my wife is thirty-seven — oops thirty-eight > > (just had a birthday!) She has been the one using birth control for > > the entirety of our nearly ten year relationship; first via the pill, > > and now with Norplant. We’re both starting to get a little edgy about > > the implications of this for her, due to her age, that she is > > overweight, that she smokes, her family has a history of heart disease > > — all categories that place her somewhat "at risk" from what I > > understand. > > We’re looking for advice on options. I think it is safe to say we > > aren’t planning on having any children (we have two from her previous > > marriage.) However surgery for me or her is probably too costly. I > > am allergic to latex, so condoms are out of the question. Sponges > > are… would really cramp our style, let’s say. > > I’m in the dark on this subject. Any pointers from those in-the-know? > > Son of Robert
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In article <37e18359.6558…@news.giganews.com>, ple…@no.email (Robertson) writes: >I’m thirty years old, and my wife is thirty-seven — oops thirty-eight >(just had a birthday!) She has been the one using birth control for >the entirety of our nearly ten year relationship; first via the pill, >and now with Norplant. We’re both starting to get a little edgy about >the implications of this for her, due to her age, that she is >overweight, that she smokes, her family has a history of heart disease >– all categories that place her somewhat "at risk" from what I >understand.
This is something that really gets me. I have NEVER been able to get a doctor to prescribe BC pills for me. EVER!!! I started asking when I was in my early twenties and every doctor I asked absolutely, positively refused. Why? Because of the fact that I smoke and my family has a history of heart disease. Now, I’m over 35, so there’s another one…but my question is where do people FIND doctors that will prescribe BC pills for them when they’ve got the same reasons I did for not taking them? Do they just argue with the doctor and insist? I tried that once, and the doctor said I would have to go to another doctor because she would not, under any circumstances prescribe them for me. Anyway, that doesn’t answer your question. Since I am not ‘eligible’ for BC pills, I went through all of the options and went with the IUD. Have your wife spend some time with a doctor and have them go through all of the different types available and think about it a bit and find what is best for her. Tracey
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I used the "Deproprovera (SP) shot for a few years. One shot every 3 months. Loved it. That Norplant can be very dangerous I’ve heard, I think there’s a law suit about it going on. Then I had sterilization surgery. Cost was about $2000. If you have insurance that’s not bad at all. Just a thought. Good Luck, Pam — .
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>I used the "Deproprovera (SP) shot for a few years.
If it’s the BC pills that she’s wanting to get away from, that shot is just the same type of thing she’s trying to avoid. There are IUDs that use the same hormone based birth control and I couldn’t even use that (or, more specifically, the doctor wouldn’t LET me use that.) — Tracey — "I used to think that life should be fair. But then I realized it’s better that life is unfair. If life is fair, it would mean we deserve all the terrible things that happen to us." – Marcus, Ranger extraordinaire.
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>This is something that really gets me. I have NEVER been able >to get a doctor to prescribe BC pills for me. EVER!!!
BTW, I read this and it looked like I was wanting to have the pills prescribed. At one point, I did, but then it became a matter of ‘Well, if the doctor doesn’t think it’s good for me, then I guess I shouldn’t be taking it.’ What has bothered me for years was when I would mention that I have never been on the Pill, people <women> look at me strangely. My mother and I have had numerous arguments about it and I mean *arguments*. I don’t know why, but she seems bound and determined that I’m lying whenever I have mentioned that I can’t take the Pill and points out all of these other women that take the Pill, so to her, that must mean I’m lying when I say my doctors would never prescribe it for me. — Tracey — "I used to think that life should be fair. But then I realized it’s better that life is unfair. If life is fair, it would mean we deserve all the terrible things that happen to us." – Marcus, Ranger extraordinaire.
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How about the diaphragm. I have never used it, but can’t you put that inplace hours before having sex, so it doesn’t interrupt the moment. Plus there are no drugs involved, so its safe to use. momalot – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -Robertson wrote: > Hiya > Perhaps this is not the appropriate forum for my query, but y’all are > pretty level-headed here so I hope tossing this out is not too > unwelcome. > I’m thirty years old, and my wife is thirty-seven — oops thirty-eight > (just had a birthday!) She has been the one using birth control for > the entirety of our nearly ten year relationship; first via the pill, > and now with Norplant. We’re both starting to get a little edgy about > the implications of this for her, due to her age, that she is > overweight, that she smokes, her family has a history of heart disease > — all categories that place her somewhat "at risk" from what I > understand. > We’re looking for advice on options. I think it is safe to say we > aren’t planning on having any children (we have two from her previous > marriage.) However surgery for me or her is probably too costly. I > am allergic to latex, so condoms are out of the question. Sponges > are… would really cramp our style, let’s say. > I’m in the dark on this subject. Any pointers from those in-the-know? > Son of Robert
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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -Tracey wrote: > In article <37e18359.6558…@news.giganews.com>, ple…@no.email (Robertson) > writes: > This is something that really gets me. I have NEVER been able > to get a doctor to prescribe BC pills for me. EVER!!! I started > asking when I was in my early twenties and every doctor I asked > absolutely, positively refused. Why? Because of the fact that I > smoke and my family has a history of heart disease. Now, I’m > over 35, so there’s another one…but my question is where do > people FIND doctors that will prescribe BC pills for them when > they’ve got the same reasons I did for not taking them? Do they > just argue with the doctor and insist? I tried that once, and the > doctor said I would have to go to another doctor because she > would not, under any circumstances prescribe them for me.
If you smoke, you probably won’t find a doctor to prescribe BC pills for you. No doctor who wanted to keep his/her license would do it because BC pills and smoking don’t mix that well. I am sure your doctors have given you the reasons for this: blood clots, etc. Now, don’t take this the wrong way but if you want to go on the pill (which has wonderful side effects besides contraception by the way) try and quit smoking.
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Your best bet is to get a vasectomy. This is much lest costly than a tubal ligation which requires a 24-48 hour hospital stay, plus anesthesiologist fees, plus fees of the surgeon. Generally a Urologist performs the vasectomy in his office for a nominal fee to say the least (much more if an accidental pregnancy were to occur.) If you have health insurance many insurance companies will pay for this but will not pay for female contraception. I believe Medicaid even pays for this procedure now, (I used to work for a physician). If you definitely do not want kids this is the safest option. It is also much riskier for the woman to have her tubes tied because of the risk of anesthetic. My husbands doctor put this out up front that it is much easier for the man than for the woman. Sure you’ll be sore for about 3 days but then your free. HLP – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -Robertson wrote in message <37e18359.6558…@news.giganews.com>… >Hiya >I’m thirty years old, and my wife is thirty-seven — oops thirty-eight >(just had a birthday!) She has been the one using birth control for >the entirety of our nearly ten year relationship; first via the pill, >and now with Norplant. >
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My husband had a vasectomy, after we had decided not to have any more children. Its the best option IMO. -Laura — Wicked Witch of the Net — Cornelius, take me away
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i used a diaphram for about a year in a relationship i had about 4 years ago. you can wear it, i think it was, for up to 6 hours before you need to and i remember it was safe to wear for something like 12 hours at a time so you can just fall sleep with it in. i found it great not to be taking the hormones the pill and injections or implants have but the best thing i found (unexpectedly) was that i enjoyed the way i got to really know my body well (and so did my partner) with all the putting in and taking out you learn to do. sounds odd but i found that interesting. it’s less of a ’shlep’ than condoms and worth it just for keeping your body’s hormones and cycles untouched, if thats what you want. (it does kind of bring the whole contraception issue into more of a mutual domain where the pill and others is squarely on the womans shoulders, what i mean is, that in an impulsive love making session, time must be made for fitting the diaphram, which can be fun in itself!) anyway, i’m rambling…. red ———- – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -In article <37E10035.B2D84…@alias.com>, momalot <al…@alias.com> wrote: > How about the diaphragm. I have never used it, but can’t you put that > inplace hours before having sex, so it doesn’t interrupt the moment. Plus > there are no drugs involved, so its safe to use. > momalot > Robertson wrote: >> Hiya >> Perhaps this is not the appropriate forum for my query, but y’all are >> pretty level-headed here so I hope tossing this out is not too >> unwelcome. >> I’m thirty years old, and my wife is thirty-seven — oops thirty-eight >> (just had a birthday!) She has been the one using birth control for >> the entirety of our nearly ten year relationship; first via the pill, >> and now with Norplant. We’re both starting to get a little edgy about >> the implications of this for her, due to her age, that she is >> overweight, that she smokes, her family has a history of heart disease >> — all categories that place her somewhat "at risk" from what I >> understand. >> We’re looking for advice on options. I think it is safe to say we >> aren’t planning on having any children (we have two from her previous >> marriage.) However surgery for me or her is probably too costly. I >> am allergic to latex, so condoms are out of the question. Sponges >> are… would really cramp our style, let’s say. >> I’m in the dark on this subject. Any pointers from those in-the-know? >> Son of Robert
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I totally agree with Gidget, and believe vasectomy is the answer, with insurance it shouldn’t cost much. Without insurance, it would still be worth it. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -Gidget wrote: > Robertson wrote: > > We’re looking for advice on options. I think it is safe to say we > > aren’t planning on having any children (we have two from her previous > > marriage.) However surgery for me or her is probably too costly. > What’s the price of birth control pills nowadays? $25.00? $28.00 per > pack? Let’s say they’re $25.00. > $25.00 x 12 (1 pack per month) = $300.00 spent on birth control in one > year. > $300.00 x length of your relationship (let’s round off to 10 years) = > $3000.00. > You could’ve had a vasectomy, and no more concerns about the added risks. > OTOH, if your wife is getting her pills for free, and you haven’t spent a > dime on birth control, then consider this: > Having, and raising a child will cost you WAY more than $3000.00. If > you’re really planning on *not* having children, then I would think > getting yourself sterilized would be the best option, imo. Surgery for > you will cost less than surgery for your wife. If you have medical > insurance, the cost may be even less. > Spending money on a vasectomy makes more sense than an unplanned pregnancy > (and accidents do happen, even on birth control), or than having your wife > die of a heart attack before her time.
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Oh, that could be true about the latex, I haven’t seen one either, just pictures, so just ignore me.<grinning> momalot 
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -Chris McCullough wrote: > I have never used one or even touched one but have seen them and they look > as if they are made out of at least some latex. Of course as I said I have > had no experience other them seeing pictures so I could be wrong but it is > something to look into. > Tanya > momalot <al…@alias.com> wrote in message > news:[email protected]… > > How about the diaphragm. I have never used it, but can’t you put that > > inplace hours before having sex, so it doesn’t interrupt the moment. Plus > > there are no drugs involved, so its safe to use. > > momalot > > Robertson wrote: > > > Hiya > > > Perhaps this is not the appropriate forum for my query, but y’all are > > > pretty level-headed here so I hope tossing this out is not too > > > unwelcome. > > > I’m thirty years old, and my wife is thirty-seven — oops thirty-eight > > > (just had a birthday!) She has been the one using birth control for > > > the entirety of our nearly ten year relationship; first via the pill, > > > and now with Norplant. We’re both starting to get a little edgy about > > > the implications of this for her, due to her age, that she is > > > overweight, that she smokes, her family has a history of heart disease > > > — all categories that place her somewhat "at risk" from what I > > > understand. > > > We’re looking for advice on options. I think it is safe to say we > > > aren’t planning on having any children (we have two from her previous > > > marriage.) However surgery for me or her is probably too costly. I > > > am allergic to latex, so condoms are out of the question. Sponges > > > are… would really cramp our style, let’s say. > > > I’m in the dark on this subject. Any pointers from those in-the-know? > > > Son of Robert
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Diaphragms with spermicide and the sponge both have extremely high failure rates. About 15% according to my ob/gyn. That’s the same percentage about that natural family planning works. There are non-latex condoms on the market, which are effective for preventing pregnancy, but not STD’s, so if you’re a monogamous couple that’s something to look into. There are also female condoms and vaginal film that aren’t latex. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> momalot said… > Oh, that could be true about the latex, I haven’t seen one either, just > pictures, so just ignore me.<grinning> > momalot > Chris McCullough wrote: > > I have never used one or even touched one but have seen them and they look > > as if they are made out of at least some latex. Of course as I said I have > > had no experience other them seeing pictures so I could be wrong but it is > > something to look into. > > Tanya > > momalot <al…@alias.com> wrote in message > > news:[email protected]… > > > How about the diaphragm. I have never used it, but can’t you put that > > > inplace hours before having sex, so it doesn’t interrupt the moment. Plus > > > there are no drugs involved, so its safe to use. > > > momalot
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Robertson wrote: > We’re looking for advice on options. I think it is safe to say we > aren’t planning on having any children (we have two from her previous > marriage.) However surgery for me or her is probably too costly.
What’s the price of birth control pills nowadays? $25.00? $28.00 per pack? Let’s say they’re $25.00. $25.00 x 12 (1 pack per month) = $300.00 spent on birth control in one year. $300.00 x length of your relationship (let’s round off to 10 years) = $3000.00. You could’ve had a vasectomy, and no more concerns about the added risks. OTOH, if your wife is getting her pills for free, and you haven’t spent a dime on birth control, then consider this: Having, and raising a child will cost you WAY more than $3000.00. If you’re really planning on *not* having children, then I would think getting yourself sterilized would be the best option, imo. Surgery for you will cost less than surgery for your wife. If you have medical insurance, the cost may be even less. Spending money on a vasectomy makes more sense than an unplanned pregnancy (and accidents do happen, even on birth control), or than having your wife die of a heart attack before her time.
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Tracey wrote: > This is something that really gets me. I have NEVER been able > to get a doctor to prescribe BC pills for me. EVER!!! I started > asking when I was in my early twenties and every doctor I asked
Eeew, you smoke? (Just teasing). Its the malpractice lawsuit concern that stops them from prescribing BC pills for you, I’d bet. Drew
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>Eeew, you smoke? (Just teasing).
Yeah, for another month so. Once it starts getting cold here, I quit. >Its the malpractice lawsuit concern that stops them from prescribing BC >pills for you, I’d bet.
I understand that part, I really do. I wasn’t clear in my first reply to this post that what *bothers* me about is that I seem to be just about the only person in the world sometimes who didn’t get around their doctors and get them anyway. Now that I’m older and wiser <uh, sometimes>, I’m glad I didn’t try. I just wonder why so many doctors *did* prescribe them for people who shouldn’t have been taking them. — Tracey — "I used to think that life should be fair. But then I realized it’s better that life is unfair. If life is fair, it would mean we deserve all the terrible things that happen to us." – Marcus, Ranger extraordinaire.
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Hmmm,I know alot of women and most of them take the pill,includeing me,and most of the, also smoke,includeing me. My doctor had no second thought about birth control pills,she did warn me of the possible side effects and increased risk but those highly out weigh the risk of haveing more children then are wanted or able to be taken care of by a family. I have never heard of a doctor refuseing to accept a patients right to choose their own method of birth control.I have had 3 obgyn’s now in 8 years and all of them had the prescription written out and ready and free samples each year when I went in for my pap. All the doctors can do and or should do is warn you of the increased risks as well as any other possible complications,as with any other medication.How many times have you been taking a prescription that didnt have any negetive side effects or increased risks for smokers or family health problems??? I personally have never heard of a medication that didnt. But you take it because it will in the short term benefit your life and health and you take the bad with it. If the pill is doing the job and neither of you can afford or are willings to have the surgery what other option do you really have?? Take the ones with the fewest risks and hope for the best,after all there are more things working against us all in life then just medicine,sooner or later each and everyone of us will end up one of the many statistics. Tanya HCF <h…@childfree.com> wrote in message
news:[email protected]… – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Tracey wrote: > > In article <37e18359.6558…@news.giganews.com>, ple…@no.email (Robertson) > > writes: > > This is something that really gets me. I have NEVER been able > > to get a doctor to prescribe BC pills for me. EVER!!! I started > > asking when I was in my early twenties and every doctor I asked > > absolutely, positively refused. Why? Because of the fact that I > > smoke and my family has a history of heart disease. Now, I’m > > over 35, so there’s another one…but my question is where do > > people FIND doctors that will prescribe BC pills for them when > > they’ve got the same reasons I did for not taking them? Do they > > just argue with the doctor and insist? I tried that once, and the > > doctor said I would have to go to another doctor because she > > would not, under any circumstances prescribe them for me. > If you smoke, you probably won’t find a doctor to prescribe BC pills for you. > No doctor who wanted to keep his/her license would do it because BC pills and > smoking don’t mix that well. I am sure your doctors have given you the reasons > for this: blood clots, etc. > Now, don’t take this the wrong way but if you want to go on the pill (which has > wonderful side effects besides contraception by the way) try and quit smoking.
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I have never used one or even touched one but have seen them and they look as if they are made out of at least some latex. Of course as I said I have had no experience other them seeing pictures so I could be wrong but it is something to look into. Tanya momalot <al…@alias.com> wrote in message
news:[email protected]… – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> How about the diaphragm. I have never used it, but can’t you put that > inplace hours before having sex, so it doesn’t interrupt the moment. Plus > there are no drugs involved, so its safe to use. > momalot > Robertson wrote: > > Hiya > > Perhaps this is not the appropriate forum for my query, but y’all are > > pretty level-headed here so I hope tossing this out is not too > > unwelcome. > > I’m thirty years old, and my wife is thirty-seven — oops thirty-eight > > (just had a birthday!) She has been the one using birth control for > > the entirety of our nearly ten year relationship; first via the pill, > > and now with Norplant. We’re both starting to get a little edgy about > > the implications of this for her, due to her age, that she is > > overweight, that she smokes, her family has a history of heart disease > > — all categories that place her somewhat "at risk" from what I > > understand. > > We’re looking for advice on options. I think it is safe to say we > > aren’t planning on having any children (we have two from her previous > > marriage.) However surgery for me or her is probably too costly. I > > am allergic to latex, so condoms are out of the question. Sponges > > are… would really cramp our style, let’s say. > > I’m in the dark on this subject. Any pointers from those in-the-know? > > Son of Robert
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>Now, don’t take this the wrong way but if you want to go on the pill (which has >wonderful side effects besides contraception by the way) try and quit
smoking. Yeah, see my additional post on this. I don’t really WANT to go on the pill, I just for some reason have had a hard time explaining to people why I’ve never been on the pill. What do people do, lie to their doctor and say they don’t smoke so they can take it? — Tracey — "I used to think that life should be fair. But then I realized it’s better that life is unfair. If life is fair, it would mean we deserve all the terrible things that happen to us." – Marcus, Ranger extraordinaire.
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Maybe things have changed in the past 10 years because I smoke and my doctor new I smoked and put me on the pill then. Actually even now I’ve been having real bad cramping, and my doctor now asked if I wanted to be on the pill to help the cramping even though I smoke. Pam — . Tracey <rbranc…@mediaone.net> wrote in message
news:[email protected]… – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> >Now, don’t take this the wrong way but if you want to go on the pill > (which has > >wonderful side effects besides contraception by the way) try and quit > smoking. > Yeah, see my additional post on this. I don’t really WANT to > go on the pill, I just for some reason have had a hard time > explaining to people why I’ve never been on the pill. What > do people do, lie to their doctor and say they don’t smoke > so they can take it? > — > Tracey > — > "I used to think that life should be fair. > But then I realized it’s better that life > is unfair. If life is fair, it would mean > we deserve all the terrible things that > happen to us." > – Marcus, Ranger extraordinaire.
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On a recent morning news show, Dr. Emily Senay(sp) claimed that birth control pills are one of the most thoroughly studied medications ever. In addition she said that for many women they actually have beneficial health effects. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -Tracey wrote in message <19990916082337.01077.00000…@ngol08.aol.com>… >In article <37e18359.6558…@news.giganews.com>, ple…@no.email (Robertson) >writes: >>I’m thirty years old, and my wife is thirty-seven — oops thirty-eight >>(just had a birthday!) She has been the one using birth control for >>the entirety of our nearly ten year relationship; first via the pill, >>and now with Norplant. We’re both starting to get a little edgy about >>the implications of this for her, due to her age, that she is >>overweight, that she smokes, her family has a history of heart disease >>– all categories that place her somewhat "at risk" from what I >>understand. >This is something that really gets me. I have NEVER been able >to get a doctor to prescribe BC pills for me. EVER!!! I started >asking when I was in my early twenties and every doctor I asked >absolutely, positively refused. Why? Because of the fact that I >smoke and my family has a history of heart disease. Now, I’m >over 35, so there’s another one…but my question is where do >people FIND doctors that will prescribe BC pills for them when >they’ve got the same reasons I did for not taking them? Do they >just argue with the doctor and insist? I tried that once, and the >doctor said I would have to go to another doctor because she >would not, under any circumstances prescribe them for me. >Anyway, that doesn’t answer your question. Since I am not >’eligible’ for BC pills, I went through all of the options and >went with the IUD. Have your wife spend some time with a >doctor and have them go through all of the different types >available and think about it a bit and find what is best for >her. >Tracey
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>From: ple…@no.email (Robertson) >and now with Norplant. We’re both starting to get a little edgy about >the implications of this for her, due to her age, that she is >overweight, that she smokes, her family has a history of heart disease >– all categories that place her somewhat "at risk" from what I >understand.
What are the chances of her losing weight and stopping smoking? Sincer her family has a history of heart disease and she is placing herself at risk certainly by choosing to smoke, I would worry more about those risk factors (cigarettes and weight) than the birth control choice. She can’t change her age or her family history. There are things that we can do something about and others that we can’t. I have used natural family planning for over 7 years and it has worked fine. The most important part of it is for the woman to know her body and to be very in tune with its signs and signals. It also takes cooperation from the male. There are books available on the subject. We all have our priorities in life…mine is to be healthy and to be able to live as a healthy person as I age. All the other stuff is secondary. The paradox of control is simple. The more we try to control life, the less control we have. Joan Borysenko, Ph.D., Minding The Body, Mending The Mind
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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -Robertson wrote: > Hiya > Perhaps this is not the appropriate forum for my query, but y’all are > pretty level-headed here so I hope tossing this out is not too > unwelcome. > I’m thirty years old, and my wife is thirty-seven — oops thirty-eight > (just had a birthday!) She has been the one using birth control for > the entirety of our nearly ten year relationship; first via the pill, > and now with Norplant. We’re both starting to get a little edgy about > the implications of this for her, due to her age, that she is > overweight, that she smokes, her family has a history of heart disease > — all categories that place her somewhat "at risk" from what I > understand. > We’re looking for advice on options. I think it is safe to say we > aren’t planning on having any children (we have two from her previous > marriage.) However surgery for me or her is probably too costly. I > am allergic to latex, so condoms are out of the question. Sponges > are… would really cramp our style, let’s say. > I’m in the dark on this subject. Any pointers from those in-the-know? > Son of Robert
================= Robert, you could try taking testerone shots, not they will make sertile while incresing your sex drive. Joe